A Guide To Surviving Christmas With The Family

Posted on 15 December 2023

The festive season is upon us. A time for over-indulging in food, bubbly, and just about anything related to Christmas. However, this time of year can be stressful for those hosting and preparing the dinner or lunch feast. Whether you’re sweating the small stuff with to-do lists covering the fridge, or if you prefer a more carefree approach, here are tips to help you stay blameless and stress-free this Christmas.

Avoid shopping on Christmas Eve

It’s tempting, I know. A frenzy of shopping – sales and specials, free samples and promotions, the allure of special deals on gift packs – who can resist? You can. Stay strong. Unless you enjoy struggling to find parking and standing in long queues waiting to reach the front of the line, then avoid Christmas shopping this eve because it’s a nightmare. Shopping at the 11th hour will make you anxious as you’re pressed for time, and you might not find what you are looking for because everything has been bought by punctual shoppers. If you’re going to be frantically searching for fresh cream, nuts, or berries you’re going to cause yourself unnecessary stress and frustration. Don’t do it.

Christmas shopping

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Gift-giving – set a realistic budget for presents

Presents on Christmas should essentially be about the act of gift-giving. Whichever end of the salary scale you fall on (or whether you’re a student) gift-giving should not be about breaking the bank to impress a family member (especially if you’re a new addition to the family). If your family is participating in the Secret Santa gift exchange then set a realistic budget for presents. Make it an amount, or price range, that everyone will be able to afford. If a child wants something that is beyond the budget, speak to them and explain why they cannot have it. However, it can be disappointing when you give a gift to a family member who is thoughtful and generous, and what you get in return is most likely something impersonal that you suspect has been re-gifted. The best thing to do is to politely accept it and think about those who are not as fortunate to receive a gift this Christmas.

If you are hosting a Christmas

Feeling overwhelmed? Don’t try and do everything yourself. Do delegate the responsibility. Make a list of what each person needs to do and then oversee it. If you like to be in charge then supervise but keep your distance – be helpful but not obstructive.  Even if you’re the host, you too deserve some R&R so treat yourself to a healthy dose of laughter, a refreshing drink, and a relaxing bath afterward. Allow other people to help you lighten your load and make this festive season one that is filled with happy memories and not begrudging ones.

Expect the unexpected guests

Christmas gate-crashers are a reality. During the festive season, overcompensate and prepare for an influx of visitors as you open your home to family and friends. Always try to prepare some extra snacks, finger food, and desserts for those relatives who pop in for a quick nibble but don’t leave before they’ve managed to make a serious dent in your pantry.

Christmas clean up

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The dreaded Christmas clean-up

It’s only fair that the host should not have to clean up after slaving away over a hot stove to prepare the Christmas feast (that’s unless everyone pitched in to make the food). Pull up your sleeves and offer to clear the table and do the dishes. It’s a messy job but someone’s gotta do it. This not only aids digestion but also avoids arguments over who is going to wash up. If you’re eager to escape the awkward pauses in between conversations or tension after an argument, make sure there is always a dish or plate left to wash as this ensures a great excuse for an early exit.

Do something good for others

There are several charitable initiatives to help the disadvantaged this time of the year. A great way to teach your children to be charitable is to lead by example this Christmas. Deliver food to a shelter, hand out food parcels or hampers yourself, or participate in a party for hospitalized children, or the elderly. You could ask your family to donate money to a charity instead of buying you a gift. A selfless act of charity not only contributes to the benefit of others but will bring you a greater sense of pleasure than receiving a material gift.

You can’t please everyone, don’t let criticism get you down

So the food is under or over-seasoned, you didn’t follow grandma’s special recipe down to a tee and that is why the dish or dessert flopped, or you’re out of drinks (well… that might be a real problem). It’s important to remember that you won’t be able to please everyone. If you get a few raised eyebrows, glaring glances, or pursed lips from the odd relative, just shake it off. Don’t make a scene. Swallow your pride and just smile and nod. Sometimes the criticisms may be more harsh than constructive, just take it with a pint of salt.

Christmas dinner

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The important thing is to enjoy your company around the table

The best place to be during this time of year is at home with those most dear to you. But if your Christmas is usually tense, bring along a new friend to keep everyone on their best behavior or someone with whom everyone can bond over disliking. This will distract relatives and give everyone something new to talk about.

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